I like to give people second chances.

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I like to give people second chances.

If someone I was close to were to be dishonest with me or prove once untrustworthy, of course it would be hard to move past. There will be no such thing as "forgive and forget" because we can forgive, but how many of us would ever really forget? The feeling of being hurt by someone. You can try all you want, but the memory will stay. Many of us keep a small guard after the first chance, because even though you forgave them... they still were untrustworthy to you, and they could easily do it again.

So I've made it clear that I'll never forget, and keep guard. Why give someone a second chance then?

In my personal experience, I have come to realize that we're all different. We were raised differently, by different standards, different values, and different morals. Some of us are more selfish than others, some more giving. I personally believe it all stems from how we were raised to see the world. The expectations our parents and guardians have for us, the influence that they have on us. However, I do believe that once we're old enough to realize and recognize how others live, we grow. If we care about someone and realize we hurt them, many of us want to change. We "live and learn". I've had my fair share of stupid mistakes as I am sure anyone has. If someone truly, genuinely cares for you, they will do all they can to make sure they don't hurt you again.

So, I like to give people second chances because we all deserve some slack. A chance to regain trust again. If we all closed off the first time, we'd probably lose many friends. We all do things we regret and things we aren't proud of, but after a second chance, there is no third.

I can think of a few people to whom I have given the benefit of the doubt, and the second time prove to be completely untrustworthy. After that, my walls go up and is not easily broken down. If someone is that willing to hurt me a second time, it shows that they really don't care. These are the people who I cut connections with, finally remove from my life, because these are the people who are toxic. They'll put themselves above others. They would rather lie to save their reputation than come clean and accept the consequences. They act for personal gain and don't care if it means hurting you in the process. Why should I waste any more of my efforts?

I've had many people who, after some time, have regained my trust on a second chance. For that, I stick to second chances. I personally find them to be worth the risk.

I just wanted to write about this, not only to clear my head of stale, lingering thoughts, but also to see if anyone else has the same outlook. If you do or you don't, send me your story and reasons in a comment on the ask me page. Enlighten me with your thoughts! We just might end up having a heart to heart on the matter! :)